Laura Berman Fortgang has some more insight into the whole growth and change process…
Every year begins with a sense
of relief. We are released from a timeframe and enter a new dimension
where we can be pregnant with hope and expectant of renewal and change.
We’ve been conditioned to anticipate it and often, we can start anew.
And yet the statistics on our good intentions are far from impressive.
According to psychologists, 23% of us quit on our hopes for ourselves
within one week of the new year and 45% by the end of the first month.
So much for hope and renewal!
At the heart of the matter is the “Lonely Work”. The lonely work is not the goal-setting, it’s not the plan, it’s not the trainer or the coach or the doctor or the consultant. The lonely work is the work you do all alone. It’s just you and your ‘bugaboos’. The lonely work is personal and it’s the part most people want to run from. The lonely work requires some serious face-time with yourself.
Choice plays a major factor in the Lonely Work. Part of the lonely work is wrestling with the habits you have around your identity, thoughts, moods and impulses. In most cases*, we can choose to change our thinking in order to change the action we take.
source:The Deliberate Life